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Translation of Malaysian Documents

Thu, 16 Nov 2017 06:36:04 +0100

The following items must be submitted (for translation of Identity Card, Birth Certificate, Driving License and Marriage Certificate)
1. Certified Copy (by local JP or Notary Public) of Malaysian Document.
2. Translated Copy of Malaysian Document (by the official translator).
3. Fee per document payable in bank cheque to Malaysian High Commission. Personal cheque or cash will not be accepted.
4. Prepaid self addressed courier bag.
5. If to be present at the High Commission, please make an appointment with the Consular Section.
NOTE:
A. Please abide with the above checklist when submitting your application. An incomplete application will be returned.
B. Limited translation services of Identity Card, Driving License and Birth Certificate can be processed by the High Commission. For translation of other documents, kindly process your translation of document with the official translation services before submitting for certification by the High Commission.
C. IMPORTANT: High Commission of Malaysia will not accept any responsibilities for documents loss during to and from High Commission via post or any courier company.

If you have any further questions, please contact the Consular Section. The checklist can be downloaded at their website under the heading "Download-Forms".

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Handling a corporate social media account

Mon, 25 Jun 2012 01:39:43 +0100

Thursday June 21, 2012
Lim May Lee

In this age of social networking, it’s hardly uncommon to see entire groups of people sitting around and checking their social media accounts on their phones. This advent of a new era where socialising is done via apps and comment boxes has pushed companies to open at least a Facebook account or be considered “out of touch.”

But do they really understand the power of social media and how to tap it? And most importantly: On a platform where all comments – good, bad or ugly – can be seen, not only by those who visit the page but also about half the world, do these companies know how to handle criticism?
Anybody can open an account, but not everybody knows how to use it well.

There have been cases where company accounts helmed by untrained individuals have responded in the wrong manner, leading to widespread derision by netizens nationwide (and sometimes worldwide.) Now, while all publicity is good publicity, you don’t want to alienate your customer base.

Here are 5 tips on handling the inevitable: Disgruntled customers who’ve decided to point out your company’s shortcomings to you and the rest of your fans and followers.

1.Should you or should you not respond?

There are internet “trolls” out there, who delight in poking around and stirring up trouble. There are also genuine consumers who have actual problems. Whoever is in charge of administrating the company social media accounts should be able to tell one from another and react accordingly, e.g: Deal with the problem and ignore the troll.

2.Quick action

When your team has received a complaint on, say, your Facebook wall, time is no longer on your side. Heads up: The time of the posting is recorded and displayed. And even the barest minimum of browsing will tell you that netizens do not like waiting. Queries and complaints are expected to be dealt with promptly. Joel Neoh, Chief Executive Officer of Groupon Malaysia and Groupon Taiwan says that, when crises occur, “the most important step for us is to quickly identify the problem and work towards a solution. To that end, our team in Groupon puts in the effort to work around the clock daily with our merchants and customers (our customer team operates 365 days a year, 8.00am till Midnight) to find immediate solutions.”

3.Apologise

A good apology contains a) sincerity; and b) the offer of a solution. Everybody makes mistakes, it’s HOW you deal with them that people will remember the most. Will you strike back? Or would you be the problem solver instead? It can be as simple as saying that you’re sorry and that you would talk to the supplier straightaway, and here’s a gift card as a token of your apology. Do note though, the difference between saying “We’re terribly sorry this happened” and “We’re terribly sorry you feel that way.” When you’re adrift in a sea of complaints, one response could be your lifeboat, the other the tidal wave that swamps you; so pick your words wisely.

4.Be human

Corporations have long tried to give their companies faces and personalities, and it should extend to their social media personalities as well. By adding a name at the end of a comment, it can instantly humanise your entire post. People then realise they’re talking to an actual person with feelings, as opposed to a cog in the corporate machine.

5.Keep things open

When you get a negative review, it’s only natural to want to take things off the wall and into a private or direct message. But, if you do that people will not be able to see the problem being resolved. Transparency is the name of the social media game, and that’s what netizens have been accustomed to. Appearing to hide things, even if you’re fixing them in the background, will not do your company any favours. Besides, if they see how you fixed one problem, they may not have to ask for so much help when they face a similar issue!

Social media accounts encourage a more casual sort of interaction between customers and companies, however, there are still lines that cannot be crossed. A newly-launched local mall was recently the centre of controversy when their social media manager seemed to lose his or her cool over the recent flood of complaints, resulting in a stinging verbal slap back at a commenter. Profuse apologies later, the account now seems to be handled by someone perhaps a little more suited to the job. A note to all companies: Some training would help, not everybody who loves Facebook is completely suited to handling the heat when issues crop up.

How to know when it's the right time to quit your job

Mon, 25 Jun 2012 01:38:10 +0100

Tuesday June 19, 2012

Ashini was frustrated with her job. Low pay, long hours and a horrible boss that was pushing her to the brink of collapse. She started wondering if she should quit.

You also may be at a point in life where you are thinking, “Maybe I too should quit and move on.” But are you sure quitting is the best option? Sometimes, it may be better to stay on and grow. I stayed at General Electric for more than 12 years, growing significantly each year. So, how do we know when is the right time for us to quit a job or move on?

Two-year rule

When you ask, “Should I quit my job?” My first question back would be, “Have you served at least two years in this current role?” Ideally, it would be three years.

My two year rule is rationalised on it taking at least six months before you understand the new culture, process and be able to make sense of the company. Then it will take you at least another six months to start identifying areas where you can improve and drive change.

It will take another six months before you start to execute, making changes and an impact. And you need another six months to see the results of your execution and to see if the changes you implemented worked and to rework it if necessary.

According to research by Anders Ericson, you will learn your job and be extremely competent after 10,000 hours. Based on a 12 hour work day, you will hit 10,000 hours of work after you spend three years in a role.

So, if you want to maximise your learning, spend three years in a role. At a minimum, two years. If you have at least served that long, it's fair to ask “Should I quit my job?” and consider quitting when there is a trigger for that thought.

But there are some exceptions to the rule. My old boss got a dream job he craved and quit our company and moved to this new company. Within three months, his dream job turned out to be a nightmare. Instead of slogging on for another two years, he immediately quit.

If you find yourself marginalised, or you dread the work, cut the loss and move on. Your job should bring out your passion and should not be dreary and energy-sapping. But I never recommend leaving a job before two years unless you are extremely clear this role or company is not for you.

When you have feelings of restlessness and discontent you may believe that it is a sign to move on and quit. But don't bail at the first glimmer of dissatisfaction. Just as you should not quit your marriage after a spat with your husband and start dating again, likewise, it should be the same with your job.
Quitting: Are you actually just running away?

Staying can be good

If you plan to quit your job because of conflicts you are facing at work today, remember that these problems will reappear in the next job if you don't take the time to at least examine what's wrong at your current role. Leaving your current role without resolving this conflict is bound to create the same issues in your next role. So, resolve these conflicts before you leave.

When I worked at NBC, a TV company in New York City, I was extremely frustrated with my boss. I thought she hated me as she gave me meaningless work and made me work on trivial matters. I was so frustrated; I started sending out my resume to other media organisations. I even went for interviews. But I had a great mentor at NBC who advised me to have a frank discussion with my boss.

I began an open, non-confrontational dialogue with her. Things improved vastly as she had made some wrong assumptions about me. I was not only able to stop a problem that persisted for a couple of months, but I ended up doing some impressive work at NBC and winning a number of awards in the process. I ended up staying and it did my career a world of good.

Staying in your role may have some practical benefits too. For example, seniority has its merits: it's harder for an employer to let go of someone trained with deep job knowledge. That's not to say you should stay at all costs.

I do believe that movement is good especially if it enables you to grow and be outside your comfort zone. But quit for the right reasons. Remember, most people who succeed in the face of seemingly impossible conditions are people who simply don't know how to quit.

When I should quit

How do you know exactly when to quit? Here are some possible reasons to consider quitting:

1. Your company has lost its purpose and you are no longer proud to be an employee there. Quit as you will be doing both yourself and the company a favour

2. Your relationship with your manager is damaged beyond repair. You have tried really hard to mend the relationship but to no avail. Leave quickly but if possible, leave in good terms.

3. Your life situation has changed. Perhaps you just had a baby, and the work culture does not suit your new lifestyle. Or perhaps your aspirations have changed.

4. Your values are at odds with the company's values and culture. Or if you are being ethically challenged. Whatever the issue, don't stay in an organisation where your values or integrity is compromised.

5. For whatever reason, you have behaved improperly at work. Or you've burnt bridges with peers. Or missed too many days of work, slacked off on the job, or developed the reputation of a loser. That reputation, once earned, is unlikely to change, so you might as well move on, while you have the opportunity.

6. Your stress level is so high at work that it affects your health and relationships. If you are feeling burnt-out, find out first if the demands of your job have increased with fewer resources. You may just be drained out. In which case, it's an issue of managing resources, not finding a new job.

7. You find yourself marginalised. Your manager, for reasons unbeknownst to you, treats you like an invisible person, not including you in important consultations or decisions. Don't do anything until you talk to your boss to find out what's going on. Your boss may also be silently urging you to leave, so if that's the case, maybe you need to take the hint.

8. You've stopped having fun at work. You dread going to work in the morning. Find out what the real reason you dread work. Is it boredom? Is it lack of challenge? Or have you changed? Don't leave just because you are bored. Try re-inventing your role. Leaving should be your last resort. But if you still cannot rediscover your love for the job, quit!

Quitting your job over unhappiness is a big no-no. If you are unhappy with other aspects of your life, it is easy to blame it on work. Do not expect work to bring you happiness if other aspects of your life are just calamitous.

Again, sort out the real reason for your unhappiness and your job may turn great again. If it is really true that your happiness is caused by one of eight reasons I outlined above, then quit. Otherwise, fix the real issue. There is a saying: “Age wrinkles the body but quitting wrinkles the soul.”

If you do work for a boss that provides toxic leadership and is a tyrant, and you are drained by the cut-throat and back-stabbing environment caused by his lack of leadership, then it is one big reason to quit. Business isn't a democracy and you cannot change your boss. Quitting then is probably the right response.

That said, quitting should be an exception, not the rule, in your career. Gaps on your resume are a red flag to employers. First, try meeting with a career mentor, talking to HR, or transferring to another position at your company. Bear in mind that once you learn to quit, it becomes a habit.

Final thoughts

At the end of the day, the key to a successful career is constantly learning and growing. So, whenever you make decisions to quit, make sure the new role will provide you significantly bigger challenges for growth and learning. If it's the same role and you are just leaving for money, beware the pitfalls.

Remember, whenever you face problems at work, your first response should not be to quit. First ask yourself if this is a situation that might possibly reoccur whether it's a bad boss, intolerable colleagues, lack of communication or your under-utilised talents. You don't want to go to the trouble of changing jobs only to experience the workplace equivalent of the film, Groundhog Day.

Finally, when you do quit, don't burn bridges. As good as it would feel to re-enact The Devil Wears Prada scene in which Anne Hathaway's character chucks her phone with her boss still on the line, it's a small world and you should try to leave on good terms.

Address your reason for leaving professionally and be sure to thank your boss for the opportunities you've received and to help transition your responsibilities.

Article extracted from Talking HR, StarBiz. Roshan Thiran is CEO of Leaderonomics, a social enterprise. Roshan believes there is a time for everything, including quitting. Roshan laments the fact that most people give up just when they're about to achieve success. They give up at the last minute of the game, one shot away from a winning goal.

是什么使我们与众不同？

Wed, 20 Jun 2012 08:46:16 +0100

无论你是男人，还是女人，做人，想成功，下面就是你必须要做到的：
1，这是个现实的社会，感情不能当饭吃，贫穷夫妻百事哀。不要相信电影里的故事情节，那只是个供许多陌生人喧嚣情感的场所。只有不理智和不现实的人才相信。

2，给自己定目标，一年，两年，五年，也许你出生不如别人好，通过努力，往往可以改变70%的命运。破罐子破摔只能和懦弱做朋友。

3，朋友请你吃饭，不要觉得理所当然，请礼尚往来，否则你的名声会越来越差。

4，好朋友里面，一定要培养出一个知己，不要以为你有多么八面玲珑，到处是朋友，最后真心对你的，只有一个，相信我。

5，不要相信算卦星座命理，那是哄小朋友的，命运掌握在自己手中。坐在家里等什么房子，车子，还不如睡一觉做个好梦。

6，不喜欢的人少接触，但别在背后说坏话，说是非之人，必定是是非之人，谨记，祸从口出。

7，少玩游戏，这不是韩国，你打不出房子车子还有资本。可以有爱好，但要把握尺度，少玩农场，牧场，斗地主等一些高度吸引人思想的晋级游戏，也许你的级别很高，但不代表你有多么成功，反而会影响和占据你成功的时间。

8，是人都有惰性，这是与生俱来的，但是我们后天可以改变这种惰性，因为有很多人正在改变。对于某种事物或是生意不要等别人做到了，我才想到。不要等别人已经赚到钱了，我才想去做。没有人相信的是市场和机遇，大家都相信的叫做膨胀。

9，知道自己要干什么，夜深人静，问问自己，将来的打算，并朝着那个方向去实现。而不是无所事事和做一些无谓的事。

10，出路出路，走出去了，总是会有路的。困难苦难，困在家里就是难。

《社会调查》普遍认为。
11，作为女人，不要以老卖老，认为事业跟自己没关系，以为自己就是洗衣服，做饭，看孩子，那就是大错特错。

12，做人，要做到；万事孝为先，教童品之道，夫妻和谐美，幸福万年长。但是这些不是拿来用嘴说说就能办到的，解放初期年代要做到这些，需要付出很大的努力和辛苦，当今现实的社会需要你付出很大的金钱，聪明的人都知道这个道理。

13，空闲时间不要经常上网做无聊的事和玩一些没有意义的游戏，读点文学作品，学习一些经营流程，管理规范，国际时事，法律常识。这能保证你在任何聚会都有谈资。

14，宁可错杀一千次来自各方面的信息，也不放过任何一个有可能成功的机会。只有这样你才不会去买后悔药。

15，要做一件事，成功之前，没有必要告诉其他人。成功之后不用你说，其他人都会知道的。这就是信息时代所带来的效应。

16，头发，指甲，胡子，打理好。社会是个排斥性的接受体，这个星球所需要的艺术家极其有限，请不要冒这个险，就算你留长头发比较好看，也要尽量给人干净的感觉。

17，不要以为你是个男人，就不需要保养。至少饮食方面不能太随便，多吃番茄，海产品，韭菜，香蕉，都是对男性健康有益处的食物。你要是看不到价值，我可以告诉你。至少你能把看病节约下来的钱给你的女人多买几个化妆品。

18，力求上进的人，不要总想着靠谁，人都是自私的，自己才是最靠得住的人。

19，面对失败，不要太计较，天将降大任于斯人也，必先苦其心志，劳其筋骨，饿起体肤……但要学会自责，找到原因，且改掉坏习惯。二十岁没钱，那很正常；三十岁没钱，可能是没有好的家境，需要更大的努力；四十岁没钱，只能自己找原因。穷人变成富人是可能的，而且很可能。穷人能穷一辈子，也是必然的，存在就是理由，只是有所选择。

20，每个人都有成功的机会！就看你给不给自己机会！

～欢迎分享～
《富爸爸穷爸爸》作者罗伯特.T.清崎

挣钱活命的工作族

Thu, 24 May 2012 15:50:32 +0100

Sharing!
在这里发发牢骚其实也不错耶。其实我觉得人做工也只不过这个社会需要钱生活下去。创业又没有本事，就惟有打工挣钱活命了。
我的公司给我的工钱本来就很高的。我也很想为公司出一份力。但是硕士的我是半个新人，再senior，经验再好，新来的接班人根本不会赏识我，搞到同事们也不服、尊敬我。他让公司给那些低质量但又做久的seniors （SPM,diploma）胡搞，他们随时就换公司的规则，喜欢就EL（emergency leave）。
我搞人事的，但被编排的工作只有训练。接下来接电话了。工钱多、工作少、被排挤也就罢了。他们就是怕我有一天又会被老板欣赏，常常在老板在的时候找我乍。大家都装得很忙，老板早、老板好、老板再见、EQ好高的。
一天，其中一个之前被前接班人‘冷落’的做久的同事，在新接班人下狐假虎威，‘封锁’我。又说不能上个人网站，不能上网看新闻/听收音机，不能戴耳机听歌，原因就是我不能接电话。但是全公司的人，包括接班人、经理、营业员、CS等等都在上个人网站、上网大声听收音机、上YouTube、午餐准时出晚归、电话久响不听、公私情感不分、同事间闲言闲语、准时放工等等。电话从来都不找人事部的，更何况训练事节，多数都是CS。可是CS装忙不接电话，博接给他们时都是脸黑黑的、只有老板在的时候忙接电话、高招、真佩服他们。
他们还搞公司政治想我辞职。说实在的我也想辞职。话说近朱者赤，近墨者黑，我也免得和这些‘黑人’有关联。但是现实生活不得不让我屈服。我极力和接班人抵抗我的权利。我戴耳机假装听不到。
现在既然在公司无所事事（公事上），我就趁这种黄金时刻上网进修。把我的硕士狠狠地争回来。我一定会加油的！偶尔看看cari.com.my也很不错。

[Source: datsun12]

做生意人脉最重要

Wed, 23 May 2012 05:21:37 +0100

Thank you for sharing!!

做生意人脉最重要。。加油。。创业要如何开始。。。很难说叻。。。但如果是我的话，钱反而是其次。。我个人认为创业之前所要多的调查来来去去也就那几个:

1. 市场：有没有商机，多人做还是少人做，最重要的是有没有潜力。（你要做生产业，服务业，还是门市？）

2. 人口：你要做的地方人口有多少，人口密度分部如何（平均年龄：必经每个年龄层的消费习惯和能力都不同），种族比例:（消费习惯也不同），地方文化。

3. 顾客群：你的事业主攻那个年龄层（你要做老人，成人，少年还是小孩生意）

4. 竞争对手：已在的竞争对手和潜在的竞争对手（已在的竞争对手：他们的实力如何，潜在的竞争对手：这世界很少有独们生意的）。如要和他们竞争，该如何和他们竞争（比价？比质？比量？），什么东西是你对手有而你又没有的？

5. 政治：个人认为这也很重要。

6. 气候：打个比如：你想卖吃喝的。。你不会在大冷天卖冷饮吧？又或是你的产品会否受到气候影响。

还是那句话个人认为创业不难，难的是守的时候，这要看你的智慧，心理质数，运气。

[Source: sweetin]

我的创业旅程

Wed, 23 May 2012 05:28:46 +0100

Thank you for sharing!!
我的创业旅程

初期创业的挑战：-
1）没有销售的经验（害怕被顾客拒绝）
2）没有控制现金流的经验
3）朋友/前同事/供应商/承包商的冷言冷语
4）遇到挫折时，所承担的压力。
5）不善于交际
6）没有顾客网络
7）害怕创业失败，成为人家的笑柄
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1）没有销售的经验（害怕被顾客拒绝）
以技术工作背景的我，销售是我其中最弱的一环。记得第一次要致电给厂经理（通常我们都要见高层），反复学习了自我介绍一个晚上，因为害怕。在打电话前，用了两小时作心理准备。

以前，总是认为销售是没水准的工作。但现在就知道销售才是最伟大的工作。

2）没有控制现金流的经验
现金流是整个企业的命脉，如果不管理好现金流，整个企业最多寿命将只有一年。除非你有花不完的钱。

3）朋友/前同事/供应商/承包商的冷言冷语
身边很多这一种人，不知他们的目的是什么，总是想看到我失败，回去打工。这也是为何到后来，我看到有人创业，我都会给与他们最大的鼓励，因为我不想重复他们这种态度。

4）遇到挫折时，所承担的压力。
压力可让我无法入睡，甚至呼吸困难。但遇到困难时，我就是会想到要我失败的那群人，我绝对不能放弃的。

5）不善于交际
这也是我到现在还在学习的东西。很羡慕那些见到陌生人都可以谈餐饱的人。

6）没有顾客网络
因为不是业务人员的背景，基本上刚开始创业时，是没有net working的，所以换来三个月零销售额的报应。

7）害怕创业失败，成为人家的笑柄。
就如第三那样，将这惧怕转换成推动力。告诉自己是dieheart!打不死的！

我自己对想创业朋友的建议
1）最好不要孤军作战，寻找可以尔补自己缺点的拍档
2）找一个“教练”，无时无刻给与自己忠告
3）虚心学习，不要认为“什么都懂”
4）抛开以前打工的旧思维（不要在被年假，Jobscope等类似的想法俘虏）
5）一定要不停的阅读，听有声书，上补助课程
6）不要太计较，初创业者，学习才最重要，盈利还是次要

必需读的书籍
1）7 Habits of Highly Effective People
2) Rich Dad, Poor Dad
3) Rich Dad - Increase Your Financial IQ
4) Secret of Millionaire Mind
5) The E-Myth

创业的迷思：
1）创业要大量资金
很多人认为要大量的资金创业才是最有效的。但我认为很多人守不到就是因为一开始投入太多资金。以大量资金创业意味着一开始你已经亏了一大笔钱。那些可省的则神歌，例如装修办公室，多于的电话线，书记等。。。。将这些钱拿来“顶”你开头几个月（或一整年）的没收入时刻更好。

2）要设立公司形象，才能找到顾客。
所谓的形象，就是要有一个--适的办公室，较好地车，拥有电话接线员。。。这些都是负债，尤其当你还没有创造收入之前。很多时候这些纯税面子问题，怕朋友看了自己的公司，而给人看不起。

[Source: 2750九一六号]

Business sharing

Wed, 23 May 2012 04:50:21 +0100

This is a blog that I have read from a website which I think worth sharing around. And also to keep as a record to remind myself.

最近都在忙本身的事务，今天突然很想写自己近期的创业心情，我出来创业半年了，这半年里学到了很多人生经验，让自己变成更成熟更懂得深思熟虑，这些经验是一般上班族很难短时间内获得的人格成长，虽然出来创业比当上班族更加多压力与辛苦，但是为了达成我的理想与人生目标，我会继续努力。

我会出来创业是因为想达成自己的人生目标，想给我心爱的人将来有个温暖幸福的家庭，我有几位朋友跟我说过同样的话，他们说我是一位有远见与有理想的男人，所以要趁年轻出来闯，如果现在不敢出来闯，将来老了会后悔，会认为为何当年年轻时做么没有胆量出来闯，趁年轻时出来闯，就算失败了还能爬起来继续往目标前进，很谢谢这几位朋友，在这几个星期里，我遇到了各种各样的人，一种米养百种人，我领悟了这句话的含义，之前我一直都是上班族，每天都在办公室里工作，外面的世界我都没去真正的了解过，现在已经看到了一部分外面的世界，原来外面的世界是多么的大，很多东西可以学习，还好我在外遇到了很多贵人，他们都肯教我，对于他本身的经验都跟我分享，从中让我学习更多事务，让我比较不会在创业的道路上乱撞，更加有明确的道路让我行走，接下来我还有很多事务要向各位前辈多多指教，真的非常谢谢他们。

但我也有遇到一些鸟人，只会泼冷水，说些嘲讽的话语，但是他们说的话我会记住，我记住并不是代表我接受他们所说那些嘲讽的话，而是我要证明给他们看只要我肯努力，我是会成功的，让那些鸟人知道，做人是不可以看现在，要看长远，我知道我现在只是一位很普通的人，但是不代表我永远都是普通的人，人只要有目标，就会往前迈进，迈向成功的道路，虽然我现在在商场上是位新人，但是我会很努力不断地去学习，要证明给那些鸟人之前所说的话都是错误的。

所以无论我在创业的道路上经历多少挫折与困难，我都要继续往前迈进。

[Source: alexteng_3629 6-11-2010 03:17 PM]

维系一个幸福家庭

Thu, 17 May 2012 08:56:37 +0100

我的母亲是个非常好的人。自小，我就看到她努力地维持一个家。她总是在清晨五时起床，煮一锅热腾腾的稀饭给父亲吃。因为父亲胃不好，早餐只能吃稀饭。然后，还要煮一锅干饭给孩子吃。因为孩子正在发育，需要吃干饭，上学一天才不会饿。

每个星期，母亲会把榻榻米搬出去晒，晒出缓缓的太阳香。每天下午，母亲总是弯着腰，刷着锅子，我们家的锅子每一个都可以当镜子用，完全没有一点污垢。晚上，她努力蹲在地上擦地板，一寸一寸仔细地擦拭。家里的地板比别人家的床头还干净，打着赤脚也找不到一丝灰尘。

我母亲是个认真辛劳的好女人。然而，在我父亲的眼中，她却不是一个好伴侣。

在我的成长过程中，父亲不只一次的表示他在婚姻中的孤单、不被了解。我的父亲是个负责的男人。他不抽烟、不喝酒、工作认真、每天准时上下班、暑假还安排功课表，安排孩子们的作息。他是个尽责的父亲，督促孩子在功课上有所成就。他喜欢下棋、写书法、沉浸在古书的世界。我的父亲是个好男人，在孩子们眼中，他就像天一样大，保护我们、教育我们。

只是，在我母亲的眼中，他也不是一个好伴侣。在我的成长过程中，我经常看到母亲在院子的角落中，暗暗无声地掉泪。父亲用语言，母亲用行动，表达了他们在婚姻中所面对的痛苦。

在成长过程中，我看到也听到父亲与母亲在婚姻中的无奈，也看到、感受到他们是如此好的男人于女人，他们值得一椿好婚姻。可惜的是，父亲在世的岁月中，他们彼此的婚姻生活都在挫折中度过。而我，也一直在困惑中成长，我问自己：“两个好人为什么没有好的婚姻？”

自以为是的付出
我长大后，进入婚姻，渐渐了解这个问题的答案。在婚姻的初期，我就像母亲一样，努力持家，努力地刷锅子、擦地板，认真地为自己的婚姻而努力。奇怪的是，我不快乐；看看我的先生，似乎他也不快乐。我心中想，大概是地板不够干净，饭菜烧得不够好，于是，我更努力地擦地板、用心做饭。似乎，我们两个人还是不快乐。直到有一天，我正在忙着擦地板时，先生说：“老婆，来陪我听一下音乐！”我不悦地说：“没看到还有一大半的地方没有擦！”

每句话一说出口，我呆住了，好熟悉的一句话，在我父亲母亲的婚姻中，母亲也经常这样对父亲说。我正在重演父母亲的婚姻，也重复他们在婚姻中的不快乐。有一些领悟出现在我的心中。他一直在婚姻中得不到他要的陪伴，母亲刷锅子的时间都比陪他的时间长。不断地做家事，是母亲维持婚姻的方法，他给父亲一个干净的家，却从未陪伴他，她忙着做家事，她用她的方法在爱父亲，这个方法是“做家事”。而我，我也用我的方法在爱着我的先生。我的方法也是母亲的方法，我的婚姻好像也在走向同一个故事。

“两个好人却没有好婚姻。”我的领悟使我做了不一样的选择。停下手边的工作，坐到先生的身边，陪他听音乐，远远地看着地上擦地板的抹布，像是看着母亲的命运。我问先生：“你需要什么？”“我需要你陪我听听音乐，家里脏一点没关系呀，以后帮你请个佣人，你就可以陪我了！”先生说。“我以为你需要家里干净，有人煮饭给你吃，有人为你洗衣服。。。”我一口气说了一串应该是他需要的事。“那些都是次要的呀！”先生说。“我最希望你陪陪我。”

原来我做了许多白工，这个结果实在令我大吃一惊。我们继续分享彼此的需要，才发现他也做了不少白工，我们都用自己的方式在爱对方，而不是对方的方式。

幸福的路径
自此以后，我列了一张先生的需求表，把它放在书桌前，他也列了一张我的需求表，放在他的书桌前。洋洋沥沥十几项的需求，像是有空陪对方听音乐、有机会抱抱对方、每天早上可kiss拜拜。有些项目比较容易做到，有些项目比较难，像是“听我说话，不要给建议。”这是先生的需要。如果我给他建议，他说他会觉得自己像笨蛋。我想，这真是男子的面子问题。我也学着不给建议，除非他问我，否则我就只是倾听，顺服到底，连走错路时也一样。这对我实在是一条不容易的学习的路，不过，比擦地板要轻松多了，而我们在需求的满足中，婚姻也越来越有活力。在我累的时候，我就选择一些容易的项目做，像是“放一首放松音乐”，自己有力气的时候就规划“一次外地旅游”这样的事情。有趣的是，“到植物圆散步”是我们的共同项目、共同需求，每次婚姻有争吵，去到植物园，总能安慰彼此的心灵。其实，这也可想而知，原本我们就会回到多年前彼此相爱的心情。问对方：“你要什么？”这句话开启了婚姻另一个幸福之路。两个好人终于走上幸福之路。

现在，我也知道父母亲的婚姻为何无法幸福，他们都太执着用“自己”的方法爱对方，而不是用“对方”的方式爱另一半。自己累得半死，对方还感受不到，最后面对婚姻的期待，也就灰心而死了。既然上帝创造婚姻，我想每个人都值得拥有一个好婚姻。只要方法用对，做“对方要的！”而非自己“想给的！”好婚姻，绝对是可预期的。

List of Non-Governmental Organisations (NGO) in Malaysia

Thu, 17 May 2012 07:32:39 +0100

Angkatan Belia Islam Malaysia (ABIM) (The Muslim Youth Movement of Malaysia)
http://www.abim.org.my/

Aliran Kesedaran Negara (National Consciousness Movement)
http://www.aliran.com/
103 Medan Penaga, 11600 Penang
Tel: 04 658 5251, Fax: 04 658 5197

All Women's Action Society (AWAM)
http://www.awam.org.my/
85 Jalan 21/2, Sea Park, 46300 Petaling Jaya, Selangor
Tel: 03 7877 4221, Fax: 03 7874 3312

Amnesty International Malaysia
http://www.aimalaysia.org/
E6, 3rd Floor, Bangunan Khas, Jalan 8/1E, 46050 Petaling Jaya, Selangor
Tel: 03 7955 2680, Fax: 03 7955 2682

Angkatan Zaman Mansang (AZAM)
http://www.azam.org.my/
Kompleks AZAM, Jalan Crookshank, 93000 Kuching, Sarawak
Tel: 082 41 1799, Fax: 082 25 8372

Asia-Europe Institute, University of Malaya
http://www.asia-europe-institute.org/

Resource & Research Centre for Women (ARROW) - Women's health & rights advocacy
http://www.arrow.org.my/
Ground Floor, Block G, Anjung Felda, Jalan Maktab, 54000 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2692 9913, Fax: 03 2692 9958

Befrienders Kuala Lumpur, The Befriender Free, confidential counselling for the depressed & suicidal
http://www.befrienders.org.my/
95 Jalan Templer, 46000 Petaling Jaya, Selangor
Tel: 03 7956 8144, 03 7956 8145 (24 hours Befriending Hotline)

Befrienders Penang
Tel: 04 281 1108, 04 281 5161 (5.30pm-10.30pm)

Borneo Research Council (BRC)
http://www.borneoresearchcouncil.org/

Centre for Education & Training in Renewable Energy & Energy Efficiency, Universiti Sains Malaysia (CETREE)
http://www.cetree.edu.my/

Centre for Environment, Technology and Development, Malaysia (CETDEM)
http://www.cetdem.org.my/
PO Box 382, 46740 Petaling Jaya, Selangor
Tel: 03 7875 7767, Fax: 03 7875 4039

Charity-Net Malaysia
http://www.charity.net.my/

Coalition for Tobacco Free Malaysia - Facts and figures on tobacco consumption and its effects in Malaysia
http://www.prn.usm.my/tobacco.html

Cyber Care Community System - Serving children, home administrators, ministries, corporate sponsors & volunteers
http://www.cybercare.org.my/
19 Jalan PBS 14/3, Taman Perindustrian Bukit Serdang, 43300 Seri Kembangan, Selangor
Tel: 03 8942 3488, Fax: 03 8942 3439

Eastern Regional Organisation For Planning & Housing (EAROPH)
http://www.earoph.net/
4th Floor, Block K, Ministry of Housing & Local Government, Damansara Town Center, 50644 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2092 5217, Fax: 03 2092 4217

ERA Consumer Malaysia - Education & Research Association For Consumers Malaysia
http://www.eraconsumer.org/
4 Jalan SS 1/22A, 47300 Petaling Jaya, Selangor
Tel: 03 7876 4648, Fax: 03 7873 0636

Federation of Family Planning Associations, Malaysia (FFPAM)
http://www.ffpam.org.my/
81B Jalan SS15/5A, 47500 Subang Jaya, Selangor
Tel: 603 5633 7514, 03 5633 7516, 03 5633 7528 Fax: 603 5634 6638

Federation of Malaysian Consumers Associations (FOMCA) (Gabungan Persatuan-Persatuan Pengguna Malaysia)
http://www.fomca.org.my/
1D-1 Bangunan SKPPK, Jalan SS9A/17, 47300 Petaling Jaya, Selangor
Tel: 03 7876 2009 Fax: 03 7877 1076

Global Peace Mission (GPM) (Misi Keamanan Sejagat MKS)
http://www.keamanan.net/
Anjung Rahmat, Batu 6 Jalan Gombak, 53100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 6188 8409, Fax: 03 6188 8470

National Human Rights Society (HAKAM) (Persatuan Kebangsaan Hak Asasi Manusia)
http://www.hakam.org/
5th Floor, Wisma Harwant, Jalan Tuanku Abdul Rahman, 50100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2693 8828, Fax: 03 2693 3828

HATI - The online welfare, charity and community resources portal
http://www.hati.org.my/
PO Box 8357, Pejabat Pos Kelana Jaya, 6788 Petaling Jaya, Selangor
Fax: 03 7722 2864

Hospis Malaysia
http://www.hospismalaysia.org/

International Council on Management of Population Programmes (ICOMP) Secretariat
http://www.icomp.org.my/
534 Jalan Lima, Taman Ampang Utama, 68000 Ampang, Selangor
Te: 03 4257 3234, Fax: 03 4256 0029

Institut Dayakologi - Information & news on the Dayak people of Borneo
http://www.dayakology.com/
Jalan Budi Utomo, Blok A3, 3-4 Pontianak, Kalimantan
Tel: +62 561 88 4567, Fax: +62 561 88 3135

Institute of Strategic and International Studies (ISIS)
http://www.jaring.my/isis/
1 Persiaran Sultan Salahuddin, P.O. BOX 12424, 50778 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2693 9366, Fax: 03 2693 9430, 03 2693 9475

The Japan Foundation Kuala Lumpur
http://www.jfkl.org.my/
18th Floor, Northpoint, Block B, Mid-Valley City, No. 1, Medan Syed Putra, 59200 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2284 6228

International Movement for a Just World (JUST)
http://www.just-international.org/
1066 Jalan SS 22/43, Damansara Jaya, 47400 Petaling Jaya, Selangor
Tel: 03 7727 6386, Fax: 03 7727 7389

Kumpulan Aktivis Media Independen (KAMI) (Independent Media Activist Group)
http://bebasmedia.tripod.com/

Light Up Beach Street Project - A Community Project To Revitalise Georgetown's Premiere Commercial District
http://www.beachstreet.org.my/

Malaysian AIDS Foundation
http://malaysianaidsfoundation.org.my/
12 The Boulevard Shop Office, Jalan 13/48A, Off Jalan Sentul, 51000 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 4045 1033, Fax: 03 4043 9723

Malaysian CARE - Malaysian Christian Association for Relief
http://mcare.org.my/
389, 8.8 km, Jalan Ulu Kelang, 68000 Ampang
Tel: 03 4256 8715, Fax: 03 4256 4044

Malaysian Environmental NGOs (MENGO)
A federation of Ensearch of 18 different NGOs concern about the environment
http://mengo.org/c/o
30-1 Jalan PJU 5/16, Dataran Sunway, Kota Damansara, 47810 Petaling Jaya, Selangor
Tel: 03 6157 5708, Fax: 03 6157 6707

Malaysian National Animal Welfare Foundation (MNAWF)
http://www.mnawf.org.my/
Wisma Medivet, 8, Jalan Tun Razak, 50400 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 4043 5113, 03 4043 2420 Fax: 03 4041 3660

Malaysian Red Crescent Society (Persatuan Bulan Sabit Merah Malaysia)
http://www.redcrescent.org.my/
JKR 32 Jalan Nipah, Off Jalan Ampang, 55000 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 4257 8122, Fax: 03 4253 3191
MRCS Tele-Counseling Service Tel: 1 800 88 3134
Free 24-hour ambulance service. Tel: 03 4257 8122, Emergency Tel: 999

Malaysian Volunteer Fire & Rescue Association (MVFRA)
http://www.mvfra.org/
32 Jalan Wirawati 6, Taman Maluri, 55100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 9200 1994, Fax: 03 9200 6995

Malaysian Youth Council MYC (Majlis Belia Malaysia (MBM))
http://www.belia.org.my/
Wisma MBM, Jalan Tasik Permaisuri 2, Bandar Tun Razak, 56000 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 9173 2761, Fax: 03 9173 2759

Mercy Malaysia - Malaysian Medical Relief Society - A medical volunteer relief organization
http://www.mercy.org.my/
45C Jalan Mamanda 9, Ampang Point, 68000 Ampang
Tel: 03 4256 9999, Fax: 03 4251 8435

Malaysian Trade Union Congress (MTUC)
http://www.mtuc.org.my/
Wisma MTUC, 10-5 Jalan USJ 9/5T, 47620 Subang Jaya
Tel: 03 8024 2953, Fax: 03 8024 3225

Narcotics Anonymous Kuala Lumpur NAKL
http://www.nakl.tk/

National Council of Social Welfare and Social Development Malaysia (NCWSDM)
http://www.ncwsdm.org.my/
17 Jalan 1/48 A, Bandar Baru Sentul, 51000 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 4044 7640, Fax: 03 4044 7705

Open Minds - Education funding for special (handicapped) children
http://www.openminds-pg.com/
Tel: 1 800 88 9357

Peace Malaysia - Malaysians For Peace People's Alliance For Peace Malaysia (Perikatan Keamanan Rakyat Malaysia)
http://www.peacemalaysia.com/

Pelangi Foundation - Home for people living with HIV / AIDS (PLWHA)
http://www.pelangifoundation.org/
Tel: 019 360 4031

Persatuan Mencegah Dadah Malaysia (PEMADAM) (Association For The Prevention of Drug Abuse)
http://www.pemadam.org.my/
8 Jalan Ledang, 50480 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2094 1190, 03 2095 1772
Fax: 03 2094 3233, 03 2095 1897

Penang Heritage Trust - Conservation of Penang's historical & cultural heritage
http://www.pht.org.my/

Penyayang - Yayasan Budi Penyayang Malaysia
http://www.penyayang.org.my/
2nd Floor Wisma Lejadi, 50 Jalan 27/70A, Desa Sri Hartamas, 50480 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2300 3300, Fax: 03 2300 1133

Persatuan Kebajikan HOPE Worldwide KL
http://www.malaysia.hopeworldwide.org/
Lot B7 2nd Floor Blk B, KL Plaza, 179 Jalan Bukit Bintang, 55100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2141 5550, Fax: 03 2141 5506, Mobile: 012 232 0808

Persatuan Mobiliti Selangor dan Kuala Lumpur (Mobility Association of Kuala Lumpur and Selangor)
http://www.mobiliti.org.my/
Letter Box 21, Room 9, 4th Flr, Wisma Sultan Salahuddin Abd Aziz Shah, 16 Lorong Utara A, 46200 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03 7957 7255, Fax: 03 7957 7266

Pertubuhan Tindakan Wanita Islam (PERTIWI)
63 Jalan SS3/53, Kelana Jaya, 47300 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03 7874 4203, Fax: 03-7873 0744

Petaling Jaya Community Centre (PJCC)
http://komuniti.virtualave.net/pjcc/
Rukun Tetangga, Jalan 17/31, 46400 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03 7958 1741

Pink Triangle - NGO involved in community-based work on sexuality and AIDS
7C-1 Jalan Ipoh Kecil, Off Jalan Raja Laut, 50350 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 4044 4611, Fax: 03 4044 4622

Project Kasih
http://www.kasih.org/

PROSTAR Club - Anti-AIDS programme & education under The Healthy Programme Without AIDS for Youth
http://www.prostar.gov.my/

Rakan Muda
http://www.rakanmuda.org.my/

Regional Environmental Awareness Cameron Highlands (R.E.A.C.H)
http://www.reach.org.my/
1 Jalan Besar, 39100 Brinchang, Cameron Highlands, Pahang
Tel: 05 491 4950, Fax: 09 491 5832

Rengah Sarawak - Penan community news & issues
http://www.rengah.c2o.org/

Reproductive Health for Adolescents Module (RHAM)
http://www.e-rham.com/
81B, Jalan SS 15/5A, Subang Jaya, 47500 Subang Jaya
Tel: 03 5633 7514, Fax: 03 5634 6638

Ronald McDonald Children's Charities Fund of Malaysia (RMCC)
http://www.rmcc.org.my/
Level 6, Bangunan TH, Damansara Uptown 3, 3 Jalan SS21/39, 47400 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03 7726 1888, Fax: 03 7726 1881

Roundtable on Sustainable Palm Oil RSPO Secretariat
http://www.sustainable-palmoil.org/
Mont Kiara Business Centre, Suite D-03-01, Plaza Mont Kiara, 2 Jalan Kiara, 50480 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 6411 8803, Fax: 03 6411 8828

Rumah Charis - Home For The Aged Home - For The Children’ Centre for Autism & LD
http://www.geocities.com/rumahcharis/
77 Lucky Garden, Jalan Puchong, 58200 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 7781 5977, 03 7784 4645

Rumah Hope
http://rayma.com.my/RumahHope/
45 Jalan 20/2, Paramount Garden, 46300 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03 7954 5523, Fax: 03 7954 5722

Centre for Independent Journalism (SAKSI)
http://www.cijmalaysia.org/
27 C Jalan Sarikei, Off Jalan Pahang, 53000 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 4023 0772, Fax: 03 4023 0769

Southeast Asian Fisheries Development Center (SEAFDEC)
http://www.mfrdmd.org.my/

Service Civil International (SCI)
http://www.scimalaysia.org/
58 Lorong Lintang Zooview, Taman Zooview, 68000 Ampang
Tel: 03 4105 1139

Southeast Asia Center for e-Media (SEACeM)
http://www.seacem.com/
48 Jalan Kemuja, Bangsar Utama, 59000 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2283 5567, Fax: 03 2289 2579

Sedar Institute - Independent think-tank
http://www.sedar.org.my/
Level 6, Menara PGRM, 8 Jalan Pudu Ulu, Cheras, 56100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 9770 8966, Fax: 03 9287 9693

Sabah Environmental Protection Association (SEPA)
http://www.simesdesigns.com/sepa/

Socio-Economic & Environmental Research Institute (Penang) (SERI)
http://www.seri.com.my/

Shelter for Women and Children Seremban
340/1833 Taman Bukit Kaya,
Jalan Sungei Ujong, 70200 Seremban
Tel: 06 763 1771, Fax: 06 762 2593

Shelter Home for Children
http://www.shelterhome.org/
9, 1st Floor, Jalan Barat, 46200 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03 7955 0663, Fax: 03 7956 2384

School Industry Partnership Initiatives (SIPI)
http://www.sipi.org.my/

Sisters In Islam - Professional Muslim women group promoting the rights of Muslim women
http://www.sistersinislam.org.my/
JKR No 851, Jalan Dewan Bahasa, 50460 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2142 6121, 03 2148 3705, Fax: 03 2148 3601

Society of the Disabled Persons Penang (SDPP)
http://www.disabledpersonspenang.org/

The South East Asian Central Banks (SEACEN) Research & Training Centre
http://www.seacen.org/

St. John Ambulance of Malaysia
http://www.sjam.org.my/
41 Jalan Shelley, off Jalan Peel, 55100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 9285 1576, Fax: 03 9283 8075

Stop The War Coalition
http://www.malaysia.net/aliran/stopwar.html

Suara Rakyat Malaysia (SUARAM)
http://www.suaram.org/home.htm

Suruhanjaya Hak Asasi Manusia Malaysia (SUHAKAM) (Human Rights Commission of Malaysia)
http://www.suhakam.org.my/

The Taiping Peace Initiative (TPI)
http://www.everlastingpeace.net/

The Urban Governance Initiative (TUGI)
http://www.tugi.org/

Talian Segera Penderaan Kanak-kanak (Buka 24 jam) TALIDERA - Child Abuse Helpline
Tel: 1 800 88 3040

Tenaganita - Sex workers, migrants & female workers rights
http://www.tenaganita.net/
Penthouse, Wisma MLS, 31 Jalan Tuanku Abdul Rahman, 50100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2691 3691, Fax: 03 2691 3681

TRAFFIC Southeast Asia - Wildlife trade & trafficking monitoring programme of IUCN & WWF
http://www.traffic.org/(regional site)
Unit 9-3A, 3rd Floor, Jalan SS23/11, Taman Sea, 47400 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03 7880 3940, Fax: 03 7882 0171

Transparency International - Malaysian Chapter
http://www.transparency.org.my/

United Nations Development Programme (UNDP) Malaysia
http://www.undp.org.my/
Wisma UN, Block C, Komplek Pejabat Damansara, Damansara Heights, 50490 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2095 9122, Fax: 03 2095 2870

United Voice - Self-advocacy group for persons with learning disabilities
http://www.unitedvoice.com.my/
PO Box 498, Jalan Sultan, 46760 Petaling Jaya, Selangor
Tel/Fax: 03 5191 7822

Victorious Life Centre - Community & charity organisation
http://www.vlc.org.my/
72 Jalan Raja Perempuan Muzwin, Taman Rishah, 30100 Ipoh, Perak

Warga Emas Networks - Community organization of computer-using senior citizens
http://www.wargaemas.com.my/

Women Against Violence (WAVe) (Kempen Wanita Membanteras Keganasan (OMBAK))
http://www.wave.gov.my/

Women's Aid Organisation - Pertubuhan Pertolongan Wanita
http://www.wao.org.my/
PO Box 493, Jalan Sultan, 46760 Petaling Jaya, Selangor
Tel: 03 7956 3488, 03 7957 5068 Fax: 03 7956 3234

Women Crisis Centre Penang (Pusat Krisis Wanita)
http://www.wccpenang.org/
24-D Jalan Jones, 10250 Penang
Tel: 04 228 0342 Fax: 04 228 5784

World Alliance for Breastfeeding Action - beast feeding feed milk motherhood
http://www.waba.org.my/
PO Box 1200, 10850 Penang
Tel: 04 658 4816, Fax: 04 657 2655

Xim Phou Moon Welfare Society
http://members.tripod.com/~XPM/
1 Jalan Sayang 3, Taman Rasa Sayang, Cheras, 43200 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 9074 8009, Fax: 03 9074 8325

Yayasan Anak Warisan Alam (YAWA)
http://www.yawa.org/
35 Medan Athinahapan 1, Taman Tun Dr. Ismail, 60000 Kuala Lumpur
Tel/Fax: 03 7727 5592

Yayasan Pembangunan Ekonomi Islam Malaysia (YPEIM)
http://www.e-jariah.com.my/
52 Jalan Kampung Attap, Beg Berkunci 11012, 50732 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 22733172, Fax: 03 2273 3167

Yayasan Salam Malaysia - Non-profit organisation promoting the spirit of volunteer service
http://www.salam.org.my/

Yayasan Strategik Sosial (Social Strategic Foundation) - A social development centre for the Indian Community
http://www.yss98.com/
Tingkat 5, Menara Manickavasagam, 1 Jalan Rahmat, 50350 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 4041 5958, Fax: 03 4041 5681